If you are a father trying to help your children spend easy quality long term time with their biological father because their biological mother abducted them and you are doing it through the California court system then you will most likely be asked to go through a PACT class one or even twice before receiving a complete order for your child.  These classes say they are required but some parents seem to slip through the cracks and others may not benefit from the class because they are completely alienated from their child and their child is hidden from them every day.

PACT stands for Parents and Children Together

PACT stands for Parents and Children Together which sounds wonderful but it really only goes through information for parents who are spending long term time with their children.  If you are a biological father who has kids but they are hidden these classes may not apply to you since your children are not able to see you at all.  They go through things like how talk about the other parent around your children and they assume that divorce is inevitable when you are attending the class.  This is unfortunate because a broken family does not provide the optimal growth and development environment for a child and over 10% of divorces end in marriage even after the divorce has been filed.  Really the class could mention that marriage is possible and couples can be together and work out their problems in a civilized way like they promised when they were married.

PACT Jokes

Some of the “jokes” you might hear in class are, “anyone else here to meet singles?”  This is a harsh reality but everyone in the class for the most part is recently divorce and very vulnerable to new relationships.  It is also mentioned in class that parents should never introduce a new boyfriend or relationship into their child’s life unless they plan to spend the rest of their life with that person.  This is an important thing to keep in mind since the children may become very attached to that new person right away.  The children may be very young and are also more likely to be abused by the custodial mother’s boyfriend.  Another joke you might hear is that a speaker may wish to provide everyone attending a “Amnesia” pill which is also a reality because if you are the left behind father, everything you have ever worked for may have been completely removed from your life including your child, and it will be a struggle to maintain even a reasonable quality to your life after the expensive custody, divorce, possibly a bankruptcy, and the ongoing need for public aid through the court and legal systems.

When Is PACT

The PACT class is only offered during certain times and on certain day of the week at certain location around Los Angeles.  If you are required to take the class you will need to find out what location you can attend and when the right time is to be there.  Then you will need to turn the form back into the court before your next hearing or as ordered by your judge or commissioner.  For fathers who have children that are completely alienated from them, this class is completely pointless and does not provide any helpful information that can be useful.  It is a buffer to help separate parents, a waste of time for parents that are not able to see their children, a hurtful way to help divorce along, and adds expense in gas, parking, and time lost during the work day while you child continues to be hidden and abused.

How Often Do I Take PACT

A few people in the PACT class were there for their second or third time which is really a waste of time since they have already heard the useless information about how children should spend time with both parents but are currently not due to a biological mother’s alienation.  It is helpful to see that there are many other people in your community going through a similar situation and I suggest reaching out to others in your class that may be able to talk to you and give you positive helpful feedback about your similar situation.