This is an opinion based editorial review on the media related to Scott Evans Dekraai and his similarities with many other fathers who have gone through a similar situation with custody problems and the legal services in Los Angeles county. It is not intended to harm or “threaten” anyone.
Scott Evans Dekraai Profession Similarity
Marine Industry. Media mentions Scott as a “tug boat captain” and many other fathers we are in contact with including Olympic medalists in sailing, world champions in the marine industry, and others experience custody problems as well as difficulty working with the family law system to gain choices in their child’s life.
Scott Evans Dekraai Age Similarity
Scott was 42 (some papers say 41) and most of the fathers that we have spoken with are around that age. Of course we have also helped fathers who are much younger and older but 30s-40s seems to be the most common age group we have seen with alienation from the mother and her group of peers, family, and friends.
Scott’s Ex Harassed and Threatened Him Just Like Almost All Other Left Behind Fathers
We read that an affidavit filed in 2007, the alleged gunman in the Seal Beach shooting rampage told of “harassing and threatening” phone calls made by his ex-wife. Almost every ex does this during a custody or divorce dispute in some way. They tell family and friends stories about the father to get the friends to help alienate the child. They will call, text, email and make obviously manipulative statements about what they want for the child even when there is an order that the father is able to make decisions. This happens to me daily along with letters from lawyers, lies from her friends, and any type of manipulation possible to keep my child away from her safe, healthy, loving, and caring biological father.
Some exs even put their biological father on the front page of the news paper to harass him and make sure that other people ask what is happening. Even yesterday a friend and I were chased and hit by a car that followed us back to my house. Police reports are available but the Judges will not consider them and allow the child to spend healthy time with their father. This makes the father feel like he is not able to use the services available and needs to take some other type of resolving action.
Scott Evans Dekraai Similar Type Of Concern
Scott like many other fathers we speak to every day have a “bitter custody dispute” and this is almost always because the father wants to play a legal and physical role in a child’s life but the biological mother will trick her friends, co-workers, and other family into hiding the child and keeping them from being able to make the healthy decisions they need to about their child. Once this happens fathers feel like their children would be better served in foster care because they are not able to spend quality time with the child and they are not able to make decisions about the child’s life and health. Normally in this case the mother is abusing the child as well because abduction and alienation from the father is child abuse. The mother almost always creates stories and exaggerates physical and mental health concerns, abuse concerns, financial concerns, and any other things in an effort to make the father look negative. This can easily be seen prior to the shooting.
Scott Evans Dekraai Similar Biological Mother’s Profession
Almost each day we speak with a new father who has a biological mother in the hair industry. We have a list of the salons and names of the biological mothers that own the salons or work in the salons that are keeping children away from their biological fathers. It grows almost every day and what seems to happen is that the people in the salon, including the owners, will convince the abducting mother that it is actually healthy and alright for her to be keeping the child away and she should do everything possible to stay away from the father, keep the child away, and take as much of his money as possible. They also help provide possible ways to help the father feel stress while he is trying to help his child spend quality time with him. At least a few times a week we also see a case with a biological mother that works or owns a hair salon, beauty salon, or spa that is abusing and keeping a child away from their biological father.
Media’s View On Scott Evans Dekraai
Just like almost every left behind father, the media, other mothers, and many other people will attempt to create stores and say negative things about Scott’s mental health, drug addiction, anger, safety, abuse, DV, and anything else they can to show how horrible of a person he is just like almost every other left behind father even though they do not relate to the problem of the killing. They will say that he was mentally unhealthy and had a “history” of problems to justify the reaction to the stress caused by the biological mother and the rest of her alleged felons per penal code 278.5 in the state of CA. This is just like almost every other left behind father because they almost all experience additional stress due to the hurt and paid caused by the media, Judges decisions, and the words of people that they would have hoped would help their child spend time with them for their health.
This is how some women in hair salons manipulate, hide children, tell others stories, and cause stress and trauma to the left behind father:
“Michelle Fournier just wanted to move forward with her life (with his child). The divorced mom of three had a good job, a **new boyfriend** and a friendly way about her.” and “Fournier also had a big fear in life: ex-husband, Scott Dekraai, 41, who **she said had physically abused her.**” ~Local Paper How can we help left behind fathers and children who just want to be together and live safe healthy lives?
Michelle obviously was not being abused because she was working in her hair salon happy with her new boyfriend. She just continued to keep the child away from the father and made sure he had a hard time making any decisions about his child’s health and life to cause stress. This is almost exactly the same in every ongoing case we are aware of in California, Washington, Ohio, New York, New Jersey, Oregon, and in other states. Mothers have even been heard bragging about the way local Police detectives will tell them how to “legally” abduct and hide a child if they want to and make the father look as bad as possible so they can get an easy divorce and find a man with more $. They believe the first to grab is parent who will receive primary or all of the custody. This is not always the case as we have seen in local courthouse orders and from other local fathers with full custody orders.
Scott Dekraai Is Well Like Just Like Other Left Behind Fathers
The Washington Post mentions, ““I don’t want people to think he is just an evil monster. He’s a nice guy, but he must have snapped,” neighbor Stephanie Malchow told the Los Alamitos-Seal Beach Patch site. “If he was in a custody dispute, that would explain why he snapped. He loves his little boy more than anything else in the world.”” This was in reference to Scott.
Just like many other left behind fathers Scott Dekraai did not really have a history of anger or problems but the people at the salon were obviously manipulating him because he would have “outbursts” there recently. We understand the type of traumatic stress that is caused when a salon owner or another hair salon staff member says that they will not tell you where your child is at or what is happening with them while their biological mother dates what she believes will be the new “father” for her child.
Solving The Stress Others Like Scott Evans Dekraai Faced
We do not know the best way to solve the problem of the stress the biological mothers in salons cause for biological fathers while they use children as tools and gain the support of their peers and even the local legal systems around them. One of the ways to start would be to help fathers have the right to make decisions about their child’s life with out the interference of the biological mother’s friends, family, co-workers, and local people she pays each day. Another way would be to offer additional support to fathers during divorce and custody problems where the biological mother has abducted the child and caused overwhelming amounts of trauma. Really we all can reach out to each other and help children have the chance to easily spend quality time (not just a few days or hours a month) with their biological parents including their fathers.
We do not support harm or killing and we know that what Scott did was not helpful but we do understand part of the stress and hopelessness he felt. We are not lawyers and we can not offer legal advise. This article is not based on facts and it is just an opinion. It is in no way intended to harm or threaten anyone. Please leave us your comments or email help@b2review.com if you would like to have anything added or if you would like to share your opinion.